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Do you want a healthier sex life? If yes, then get into nature A LOT more! Here’s the basic truth of it: there are elements in the outdoors that feed the sexual aliveness of men. I realize this sounds like a stretch to some people, so stay with me here, because to have a fantastic sexual life with your spouse, wilderness adventure can be an absolutely key component.

Backpacking tours
Human beings didn’t evolve in office buildings. Of the last 200,000 years human beings have only been living in air-conditioned homes and heated office buildings for about 200 years. Before that most men in the world worked in the outdoors as farmers or ranchers, and before that they hunted and battled in small groups before returning to their villages and their wives. And when they returned home, they were hungry for intimacy (not just sex, but emotional intimacy as well.)

Grand canyon hikes
John Gray (author of “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus”) has spoken at length about how men tend to “rubber band” between wanting space and wanting intimacy. And when women, who when they receive intimacy tend to just want more, don’t give the men that space, then the men quit choosing to come back for intimacy. When this happens, the natural rubber band pattern is broken, the man feels crowded and smothered, and the woman feels unloved. This pattern obviously doesn’t help their sexual life, and in many instances leads to divorce.

Adventure travel
And here’s the bottom line: to feel fully alive in life, a man needs (whether he knows it or not) to exercise the wild side of his personality. The part that wants to take risks, that wants adventure, that wants to hunt and kill, that wants to explore vast amounts open wilderness. Rock climbing, rafting, hunting, mountain climbing, mountain biking, and skiing are all excellent ways to achieve those things. And ladies, when he comes back, he’s most likely going to be in his natural pattern, and will likely be hungry for intimacy.

He doesn’t have to go out by himself. Going together to climb, ski, hike, bike, hunt, fish or do any sort of adventurous activity is a fantastic way to build connection. When my wife and I spend a weekend doing something really fun outdoors, we always come back much closer. It’s one of the healthiest things we can do for our intimacy. And maybe it’s on a guided tour, or with part of an outdoor club. Whatever and however you do it, the key is (as Nike says) JUST DO IT!

Tags: Dating, Sex & Relationships