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Maintaining harmony in a relationship once you have got your ex back is just as important as as in phase of the process in winning them back after you were initially spurned.

There is a big danger for people to fall back into their comfort zone once they have reconciled with their ex and it’s a blunder many make, but which can easily be avoided. T W Jackson covers this aspect in detail in the Magic Of Making Up and if you ignore it then you could be setting yourself up for another fall.

It’s a matter of thinking back to the process you went through to get your ex back. Regular dating for instance would have been part of that; you would have done just about anything to win back their favor but if you think this was only going to be a temporary measure and you wouldn’t have to worry about it anymore once you’re back together, think again.

In fact, the maintenance phase needs to be taken seriously. If you were dumped once, then there is always the chance it could happen again if you go back to your old ways. And don’t worry, you don’t need to be on your hands and knees all the time sucking up to your partner just to stay in their good books.

We go through just some of the things you can do in this article and they all help in maintaining harmony within your relationship. These and much more are covered by Jackson in his all important maintenance chapter in the Magic Of Making Up book.

How To Maintain Harmony In Your Relationship

1. One of the first things you should look at is creating a weekly date night. Just think about it, when you were wooing your ex you would have gone out on a few dates and they would have been fun. What you want to be careful of is slipping back into old routines and thinking there is no need to go out on dates anymore. So organize at least one night out a week.

2. Leave notes for your partner. No, we’re not saying go overboard and write them a note every five minutes. It only needs to be once a week. A note before you go out just letting them know where you are. A note to thank them for something they did for you. Leave notes in surprise places such as on their pillow.

3. Do something for your partner that is usually their responsibility. Don’t even ask whether they would like it done, just do it.

4. Spend time with each other just to find out how each other’s day went. This only needs to be 15-20 minutes but it’s very powerful. Always ask your partner how their day was.

5. Like organizing a weekly date, organize at least one night a week where you rent a movie and watch it together. Likewise, have a special dinner together at home on a regular basis.

The above suggestions may seem simple but just think what you were doing when you first got together. A lot of the stuff such as we’ve mentioned here goes out the window.

This is just a small sample of how to maintain harmony in your relationship once you get your ex back and T W Jackson has more nuggets of gold in the Magic Of Making Up guide.

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